How long you can hang on?

Whenever you encounter something... really really not comfortable or "cannot tahan", how long will you "throw" it away? 1 second? 1 minutes? 1 hour? 1 day? 1 month? 1 year? or... whole life?

Hmm..

For a non-living items... lets say, it just a rubber band? If that particular rubber band has been "staying" at your table, just beside your laptop, will you move it? or just keeping it there and wait other people to remove it for you?

Lets have another example, VEGE IN YOUR PLATE!! XD haha. If you do not like bean sprout!! (i know many friends who dont like it :P) , will you move it aside?????? Or just EAT it? Hehe.

Above is example of non-living items.

Lets have some "living" creature now. Mosquito? Haha. Smash? Ignore? or you run away yourself?? :P

How about... ant?? Some people do not like ant... they get agitated (something like get high, instead of disturb feelings...you know? XD ) if there is ant... they cant resist to press them to "heaven"... haha.


Hmm... what's about human then?

Did you experienced a situation that you really dont want to stay in the same room with a person? Trying to escape from that room as fast as you can!?

Or

DONT FEEL LIKE TALKING TO HIM/HER AT ALL? Whenever he or she talk, you get annoyed.... the speech... is so childish and not rational at all.... is so selfish and do not consider any other consequences...

Ever feel like that?

Well. How do you response or reply to such incident when you get into it? Ignore? Scold? Stay cool....? Or... ?

No matter what's your method is... how long it will lasted? Do your method works everytime? Are you being comfortable with the result?

Hmm. Why do we tends to get negative feelings?

In my opinion, i think we only can see... what is going on. But do not feel... what is happening to us.

Most of the time, we forgot the most important thing, our emotion and feelings.

How long can a person hang on to a dislike situation... it is greatly depends on the intensiveness of our emotion and feelings...

Failing to recognize it often resulted a great stress... where we get frustrated, sad, feeling hopeless.

I believe the formula is quite simple to be understood.


Original time spent - (% of emotion/feelings x impression) = time spent
(Inaccurate, simply my illustration. DID NOT PROVEN BEFORE! PLEASE DO NOT QUOTE IT IN ANYWHERE! PROPER RESEARCH MUST BE DONE BEFORE IT IS ANNOUNCED! )

Lets say, normally you will take 2 hours to take your lunch. However, you are feeling sad that day and the restaurant you are sitting there has given you a bad impression... it will resulted something like this...

2 hours - (Sad x Bad) = 20 minutes (Simply. lol)

Less time spent for your lunch :P Haha....Should be something like tat.

So.... why there is cases like... people ignore their feelings in order to prolong the time spent?

Example...

Someone who do not like McD, willing to sit there with his friends for 2 hours...that normally he will just escape from there in 20 minutes...

So:

20 minutes + (feelings x impression) = 2 hours ??

Workable? haha.

Maybe i am sleepy now and started to crap... hehe.

Ok, stay tuned... more coming up next XD

Continute tomorrow.

Why no post for so long???

Haha. Maybe some of you will be questioning me why I started this blog if I do not have the time to maintain it... or where have I been to? :P

Hehe.

Simply because I do not feel like writing out my feelings and thoughts for that particular period.. :)

Maybe... afraid?

Maybe.... confused?

I am not sure about it :D Anyways, after a long turn, finally I am applying for Master in Clinical Psychology xD but nt sure i am getting it or not yet :P

Ok, purpose of writing this is actually because of someone.

Few days ago... or maybe a week before? or longer... i forgot, I told someone, actually a friend that ... his situation or decision is not as "optimistic" as he thought... based on my consideration or rather... judgement. At that moment, honestly, I thought I was right about it. (I am Leo. lol)

Until now, after a clear thought.... maybe I was a bit unfair to him :D Haha. I overlook his passion... overlook his self-confidence (most thought it was childish xD) and maybe supports from people he knew.

Most of the time, people thought money is the most important foundation for a business.

Today, I learnt something different... TIME is even more important than anything else..

Business = War

Centuries ago, most of the generals able to win another great commander not by outnumber them... is by wisdom that know how to control the time (weather, setting, human's emotion n etc) They win, because they know how to use the best time to strike the enemy...

Same as war, business will be successful if you know how to manage your teamates, planning and product... As my friend predicted, now its the best TIME to be involve in this business field... and he strongly believed that. Not only that, he even convinced some other people to join him to form this potential company at this point of TIME together...

He managed to find some people, at this TIME to fight together with him. Together with his passion at this TIME, he is leading a group of people... Well. I believed that he did it at the right time... since they are doing something now. haha.

Hopefully the next TIME we discussed about his business, he found something that really proved his TIME is correct. Hehe.

ALL THE BEST!

1 month left

The time just passed 12, symbolizing the over of 1st August 2009, it also means that there are only 30 days left...

For Mr A, Mr B and Mr C, maybe there is nothing special about it, but for me, it is.

After these 30 days, i no longer call myself as university student, i no longer call myself as undergraduate... "graduate" is the title i will be using after this.

So...what happen since 2005? 4 years could be a long period as well as a short moment of life. But, it is reaching the end now.

What's next? What's waiting me ahead?

Hmm. It's not a green grassland that we can see only 2 colour, green and blue...

The future await me is full of different colours, probably some new colours that i even dunno the name of it :P Hehe.

Well, it could be surprise.... or challenge? I guess. But one thing for sure, my spirit and dreams will not forgive me if i take a back step during that time. Hehe.

Should i call it a farewell guys? Izzit a path that we should walk alone? Hmm... let's wait and see. Hehe.

For now, i just want to recall all the memories we have spent together all these years and thanks for your contribution in forming a big pictures to my university life... without anyone of you, the puzzle will never be completed.

Thanks and hope each of us can have a bright future where we have set for ourselves :D

Can you help your own self?

As titled, can human being helps themselves when they are the one who really need help the most?

Example:

As a doctor, Doc X has really did what he is obligated to do everyday in hospital. He is a cardiology specialist, he helped a lot of patients who has encountered various illness regarding the heart.

One day, he went to work as usual. On his way to hospital, he experience suffocation and his sight become blank in a sudden and caused a serious accident.

Come out from the wad, the doctor become patient. And his colleague, took care of him with full care.

However, the fact is that he is experiencing a serious heart disease which is a rare case happen in this hospital. Along with his injuries, he still in coma state and his colleague has no idea who else to be consult for this case. Tried alot of ideas, but no one is dare enough to try it. No doctor willing to risk this surgery. It is too risky.

The doctors ran out of idea except waiting himself to wake up.

Example 2:

Mr A was a good teacher in Sekolah rendah XXXX. Every students like him. He was an outgoing person and has a lot of good friends in school as well as outside the school. His favourite was orchid plantation where he can try a lot of combination and get a new species of orchid. This hobby of him not only help him to spend his leisure times, it also help to earn some living income.

As people say, no matter how good you have prepare for yourself, what will happen will still be happening.

Mr A ran into an accident and experience tannitis. He will keep hearing voices from his left ear and soon it become too disturb until he could hardly hear what people talk to him. Even his own step when walking become irritating to him.

Without his realisation, he developed depression.

He lost interested in everything of him.

He no longer plant orchid and hang out with friends.

His only activity now is watching the television in a very low volume where only the subtitle is important....

Everyone has tried to assist him.... psychiatrist has tried several drugs in helping him to have a better mood... but it doesnt last long... he even admitted to wad and tried to suicide.

Family is there for him. Friends are there for him. Doctors are willing to help him.

But, he refused all the assistance and supports.


Now back to the topic. Can a person help himself? Always? Or it will only happen when we are talking about it and it will never happen when we really need to do it?

again.

Can we help ourselves?

Ghost...do you believe in it?

Let me just give you a simple example.


Long time ago (typical starting for story..lol.) ok, not really that long la...maybe just few months ago la. Hehe.

Someone named "M.A." was going to a forest for a bird hunt, just like normal weekends. (Morning ppl, nt during night, so not tat spooky)

Together with his friends, he went into the usual spot and started to aim for bird...well, you know...its their dinner...so they have to put more effort.

So...they explore...and explore...soon. They separated...

M.A. ... walking alone in the forest... there are voices everywhere... bug...monkey...and wind.

So far...he haven spotted any bird yet...

So...he decided to go in deeper...

Well...he walked...walked...and walked...

Then...he saw something that he never wanted to think about...

Ok. This is not a ghost story, so i am not going to elaborate like what he told me....if not, complains will come to me xD

So, his friends saw him in the forest, fainted. So they brought him home.

1 day passed, and he finally wake up.

However, his temper was changed since then...he became easily irritated and talk to himself...he also not interested in his wife anymore... he is like ... totally different ppl, but of course, he still recall everyone and everything.

His family worried. Decided to ask a spiritual caster (Bomoh) to look at him.

Chanting...chanting...Then, the bomoh told the family, he has been possessed by jin jahat (evil spirit)

So after obtained the agreement of the family, the bomoh started to do something...planning to chase out that jin.

And yet...

Nth happen and finally was admitted to hospital when he started shouting and destroying tables and chairs in the house.

After few days of observation and medication. He regain consciousness and told the doc all the story. However, he still believed that there is an evil jin trying to harm him and his family.

Doc has tried what they can do, and when the patient is stable, they need to be discharge...so M.A. went home.

So. People from the floor. Is it a possession or something else? Haha.

The voice of the regretted.

As usual, went to assist metadon program again this morning. 5 drug addicted patients have joined in for group counselling and everything was okay, i think.

Like usual, their main concern will be money and of course, the acceptance of society.
Some of them, luckily, have their family support and encouragement.
Some of them, even have their friends to assist in their business and earned quite a good living for themselves...
However, among 10, only 2 or 3 of them are having such family conditions.
While the rest...
Rejection of family...friends and society.

Well, all of them said they can understand...reason why they are being isolated...
but deep inside their heart...inside the regretted heart...are tears that will never come out from their eyes.

one of them told us today... it was stupid....really stupid...the curiosity is really not worth for it...
another told me...
my certificate...my achievement in my degree....is useless now....
many of them even told us...
I have stopped drug induce...I joined metadon program that you guys promised us, it will bring us a change...

we agree, they really change alot, now they can work and think consciously.
however, how many of us really can accept their truthful apologize?

Metadon program, is the alternative substance we introduce to those who has the heart to turn good again, who hoping for 2nd chance...

however, can we really give them the 2nd chance?

They are willing to change now. How about you? How about us? The society...

开始了。。

哈哈。 终于开始了。。 灵感来了！

今天，和朋友们去了槟城玩了一天，不错吧。 （虽然只去了三个地方)

但是！那不是重点！哈哈。

朋友，好久没一起出来了。。

今天一聚，重温了许多遗失的心情。

朋友，你们都没变哦。。还是一样顽皮。。可怜我们的凯杰。。哈哈

不错，大家虽然有了自己的大学生活，不过还是一样不会忘了彼此。

突然。。。好怀念中学时的一切。。。

那时的笑容。。。是多么的灿烂，开心。。。

还记得老师说的话。。

我们 5.0 这班

是新民从所未有的！哈哈！

当然不是好的啦。。 哈哈。

不过，我们的坚持。

改变了每一个对我们有恩的老师。。。

让他们了解了我们。。

想一想。。

我们是多么的幸福啊。（跟form 4比啦。。）

朋友们。。

我。。。何健豪，5.0 的班长，在此感谢你们当年的“厚待”，让我有了一段美好的学年！

现在，读书的读书。。。毕业的毕业。。。工作的工作。。。

希望你们都往着自己的方向走吧。

迷路了，不要害怕。

看一看旁边。

我们就在那。。。陪着你一起走呢